Daddy Issues – “I’m Not”
Nashville trio Daddy Issues make catchy fuzz-rock that brings important experiences to the forefront. After forming three years ago, the band was quickly subsumed into the Infinity Cat family, releasing a split with White Reaper and recording their forthcoming debut album, Deep Dream, with label head and JEFF The Brotherhood brother Jake Orrall. “I’m Not,” the second single from their new LP, is directed at those who have dealt with sexual abuse and assault, and Jenna Moynihan addresses the feelings of inferiority and shame that can manifest when you’re forced by society to keep things bottled up: “You’re so great and I’m not,” she sings on the hook.
Drummer Emily Maxwell issued a statement alongside the song:
Sexual assault and abuse are extremely difficult and complex things to process, and in trying to process them – especially if you’ve been silenced by your family, friends or community in favor of protecting your abuser, which is an indescribably painful thing to experience – you sometimes end up making excuses for your abuser like your loved ones do and start inventing a lot of alternate reasons for why you ended up in the situation you did. That can take the form of blaming your own sexuality (i.e. ‘maybe because I kissed this person I gave them the wrong idea,’ which is completely untrue) or blaming the media for teaching you falsehoods about how women are supposed to cave to a man’s will, among a million other things. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I spent a long time going through every reason why it had to have been my fault until I finally started to come to grips with the fact that it wasn’t, which wasn’t until very recently. This song is about that confusion and how much it can be spurned on by the people around you telling you that your trauma doesn’t matter because outside of the fact that your abuser nearly destroyed your life, they’re a good and kind person and should be allowed to continue on with their pleasant and perfect world.
Listen to “I’m Not” and the lead single from Deep Dream below.
Tour Dates (w/ Diet Cig):
04/06 Philadelphia, PA @ Boot & Saddle
04/07 Brooklyn, NY @ Baby’s All Right (early show)
04/08 Allston, MA @ Brighton Music Hall
04/10 Montreal, QC @ Bar Le Ritz
04/11 Toronto, ON @ Drake Hotel
04/12 Rochester, NY @ Bug Jar
04/13 Washington, DC @ Rock & Roll Hotel
04/14 Richmond, VA @ Gallery 5
04/15 Carrboro, NC @ Cat’s Cradle
04/18 Orlando, FL @ Will’s Pub
04/19 Tampa, FL @ New World Brewery
04/20 Tallahassee, FL @ Club Downunder
04/21 Atlanta, GA @ The Masquerade
04/22 Charlotte, NC @ Snug Harbor
Deep Dream is out 5/19 via Infinity Cat Recordings. Pre-order it here.