Today in Completely Fucked Up News: an audience member hopped on stage and tried to kiss both Britty Drake of Pity Sex and Brianna Collins of Tigers Jaw during their sold out sets at Music Hall Of Williamsburg last night. This is never OK, on stage or off — to touch someone without their consent is sexual assault, plain and simple. Right after the incident, Collins said on stage: “Just because I’m up here and I’m a girl does not give you the right to touch me.” Unfortunately, this has been a problem in music for far too long, from last year’s incident at a The Story So Far show to Iggy Azalea’s admission that she has to wear multiple pairs of underwear on stage to protect herself from people in the audience. Collins posted a statement on Tumblr today with a clear message: “IT IS NEVER OKAY TO TOUCH SOMEONE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT.” Here’s the whole statement and some tweets:

Last night at the Music Hall of Williamsburg, someone came on stage and very forcibly tried to kiss me, and actually did kiss Britty while she was playing. Another person from the tour was kissed while taking a photo… This tour is the first time something like this has happened to me, and I definitely feel responsible to say something.

IT IS NEVER OKAY TO TOUCH SOMEONE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. Ever. I felt so upset and violated, as did the others who this happened to.. Touching someone without their consent is not only upsetting for that person, but is also a crime. We all need to respect each other’s space — whether it’s someone in the band or someone crowd surfing. I just want to play music with my friends and I shouldn’t have to be worried whether or not every person stage diving is going to do something like that. I don’t want it to come down to having to say that there’s no stage diving allowed at our shows, but if stuff like this keeps happening and I feel unsafe and uncomfortable when we play, I don’t know any other solution.

So please – DO NOT EVER touch/kiss/grab someone that has not given you consent to do so. You are not entitled to that no matter what the situation is. Be a decent human being and keep your hands to yourself.

- Brianna

Sucks that a culture of entitlement has engrained that its cool to kiss nonconsenting strangers so well that he didnt know what he did wrong

— britty drake x (@BrittyDrake) June 19, 2014

How ignorant is it to go see a performer you love and then make them feel so small and imposed upon by touching them inappropriately

— PETAL (@petal_pa) June 19, 2014

We all have the capacity to be better and smarter and when the message is sent that women are objects you make humans seem so so dumb.

— PETAL (@petal_pa) June 19, 2014

Be conscious of your actions and realize how they may be perpetuating awful things in the punk community and the world.

— PETAL (@petal_pa) June 19, 2014

Shows should be safe environments where everyone is accepted and respected.

— PETAL (@petal_pa) June 19, 2014

Im just gonna say, nobody deserves to have their personal space violated ever. EVERYONE is human and has feelings and boundaries.

— Elliot Babin (@ElliotBabin) June 19, 2014

i just heard about what happened at the pity sex/tigers jaw show last night and i am full of rage

— waxahatchee (@k_crutchfield) June 19, 2014

This is insanely messed up and plays into a dark side of the music scene that’s built on misogyny and entitlement. You can read some thoughts about the incident here and here from women who are more qualified than me to address the issue head-on.

Tigers Jaw and Pity Sex both released fantastic albums in the past year so let’s listen to some music:

[Photo by Mimi Hong/BK Vegan.]